Welcome to TANQ.
WhyWhatHow‘s library of Thoughts, Anecdotes, Notes and Quotations.
TANQ is a growing central library of thoughts, anecdotes, notes and quotes that I come across during my life and learning. It was originally inspired by Ryan Holiday’s excellent article on “How and Why to Keep a Commonplace Book“.
As time goes by I’ll be developing TANQ to make it easier to explore, filter and share its contents right here on WhyWhatHow.
For now, here’s a snapshot from the inside:
“It is the quality of time at work that counts and the quantity of time at home that matters.”
“Fully 85 percent of your happiness in life will come from happy relationships with other people, especially those closest to you, as well as the members of your family. The critical determinant of the quality of your relationships is the amount of time that you spend face-to-face with the people you love, and who love you in return.”
“If you want to improve a person in a certain respect, act as though that particular trait were already one of his or her outstanding characteristics.”
“I have no right to say or do anything that diminishes a man in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him, but what he thinks of himself. Hurting a man in his dignity is a crime.”
“It isn’t nearly so difficult to listen to a recital of your faults if the person criticising begins by humbly admitting that he, too, is far from impeccable.”
“If you come at me with your fists doubled, I think I can promise you that mine will double as fast as yours; but if you come to me and say, ‘Let us sit down and take counsel together, and, if we differ from each other, understand why it is that we differ, just what the points at issue are’, we will presently find that we are not so far apart after all, that the points on which we differ are few and the points on which we agree are many, and that if we only have the patience and candour and the desire to get together, we will get together.”
“We are incredibly heedless in the formation of our beliefs, but find ourselves filled with an illicit passion for them when anyone proposes to rob us of their companionship.”
“If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments. Remember that the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems. A person’s toothache means more to that person than a famine in China which kills a million people.”
“Whenever Roosevelt expected a visitor, he sat up late the night before reading up on the subject in which he knew his guest was particularly interested. For … the royal road to a person’s heart is to talk about the things he or she treasures most.”
“Criticisms are like homing pigeons. They always return home.”